As daughters grow up sometimes they may not understand the dangers in appearing older than their actual age. Parents are in the front line of defence in keeping blossoming daughters safe from unknown dangers, with mothers possibly having a more hands on opportunity to care for and educate their girls as part of their everyday personal grooming. Fathers may be all too familiar with the thoughts of seemingly well meaning young men, which can terrify some dads! While single fathers may find this age and stage the most confronting. Sound familiar? Mature as she may (or may not!) be, chances are you are now wondering when its appropriate to let your little girl wear lipstick.
--Tween girls wearing lipgloss--
Tween girls, aged 10 to 12, may already have a desire to be older. Their friends may be allowed to wear a complete face of makeup and wear scantily clad clothing. This may not be acceptable to you, or you may have rules about when its okay and when its not.
If your daughter is really keen to appear grown up, prior to age 13 consider allowing clear lip balms and flavoured clear lip glosses. Popular televisions shows that are geared to tween viewers have complex plots involving romantic relationships and, of course, kissing boys. Their favourite starlets may have on miniskirts with the matching full face of make up to appear older for the camera.
Explain this to your child.
Limiting the influences that come across the television, and communicating well with your children about what they see in programs you do allow, can help keep age-appropriate dress in perspective. In addition, to appease your anxious tween, the clear lipsticks and balms may do the trick for a while.
--Teenage girls trying lipsticks--
Teenaged girls aged 13 to 17, who feel they have already reached womanhood, may not understand why they should not be permitted to wear a full face of makeup and eye-catching lipstick.
Its likely you will come into conflict with them about this as they become more verbal and peer pressure kicks in. Good communication, a consistent rule and talking openly about the various issues and concerns you both have should help. For example, you can wear gloss and pinks till youre 16, and lipstick and darker shades after that. Red when youre at university.
Another great way to help transition young girls into makeup is to show them how to wear it age appropriately. Play, have makeup classes together, take your daughter shopping with you when you are buying makeup so she can see how you make your decisions. That way, in a fun, quiet way you can share with them what you think is okay AND okay for them.
After age 13 start to allow tinted lip balms in flesh-toned colours, light pretty pinks or with a slight metallic shimmer (a little bit of sparkle!). There are natural lip glosses and tints that suit all skin tones. After age 16 consider permitting the use of lipstick. Lipstick colours should be kept natural, soft and pretty. Steer clear of dark colours or colours that are too strong; they are hard for any woman to wear but they can look particularly gruesome on a sweet young girl.
--Skincare for your daughter--
Go to a makeup counter or drug store and properly introduce each daughter who is of age to lipstick. Select lipstick colours that are natural looking. Teach proper skin care and how to apply natural products to the skin as a moisturizer. Choose moisturizers made of shea butter, olive oil, or vitamin E oils. Show daughters how to take care of their skin as the foundation for a good beauty routine later on.
After your daughter has mastered skin care, exfoliation, properly moisturizing and toning, and the use of sunscreens, start to permit the use of a little lipstick. You might like to take her shopping or bring one home as special reward for good marks at school or some other personal achievement.
This can be done inexpensively or you can splash out and opt for an expensive department store brand to begin with. Let your daughter know that if she follows the rules about appropriate use of makeup she will be rewarded and trusted to make good makeup choices.
--What if makeup is a must?--
Daughters that are adamant about wearing lipstick may also want to wear other cosmetics.
Letting teenagers wear full face of makeup will make them look older. If there is an acne problem or facial scars consider purchasing higher quality skincare products, and concealer products. The concealer can cover up acne scars and any pimples. Translucent powder is available in all skin tones. Lipstick, concealer, and translucent powder are a great age appropriate compromise for older girls that are over sixteen and who cannot be dissuaded from using makeup.
Be firm about the rules regarding make up. Stress the importance of proper skin care and looking age appropriate. Encourage activities with daughters that help build their self esteem and self identity. Feeling that they are beautiful while being constantly bombarded by images on TV is challenging. Talk to them about natural beauty, how to properly accent their features through skin care and minimal use of cosmetic products. Dont forget to have fun!
Parents may have a lot of fear for their daughters as they mature but with a light-hearted approach and clear guidelines, ultimately your daughter will understand you have her best interests at heart and will hopefully enjoy learning and exploring this new world of makeup and womanhood with your help and gentle guidance. email@example.com